i have never been to a kink con before. what should i expect?

we’re stoked you’re thinking about getting social with your kink. we’ve got some practical details in the questions below, but check out our what to expect page for more.

how many people will be there?

we’re not quite sure what the numbers will be for this year - but we’re definitely not going to expand. (last year we had right around 200 people.) there’s so much focus on “more” in the world - things are always getting bigger, usually at the cost of both quality and community. we want to take this year to focus on reworking some of the issues we had last year, so that the people who attend have an even better experience.

we’re hoping to strike a balance between keeping things communal and offering more community space, while making sure everyone has physical space for all the sexy shenanigans they’d like to get into.

we also get that folks may still be feeling some anxiety around larger groups right now. track our covid policies here.

to keep things communal, cozy, and manageable in our first year, we capped attendance at right around 100 people, including attendees, presenters, and staff. we expanded in our second year to 150ish all told, and again in year 3 to 200.

what is the minimum age?

unabashed is for adults 18 and up. you must be 18 before the start of the event to attend.

what’s the schedule like?

we’ll release a full schedule ahead of time, but the hours of the event are roughly:

Friday: 3p-1:30a, with events from 6p-1:30a
Saturday: 9a-1:30a, with events from 11a-1:30a
Sunday: 9a-11p, with events from 11a-6p

what should I bring?

your government issued ID will be needed for registration. bring a water bottle and, if you plan on getting cozy with the coffee bar, your favorite coffee mug/tumbler. many people like to bring notebooks and pens for taking notes during sessions. for the parties, bring your toys, safer sex supplies, and aftercare gear, plus any towels or tarps you need to keep the space tidy. there will be spots to keep clothes and gear if you plan to get ready at the venue.

we’ll have some accessible seating again at the venue, and we’re looking into ways to get even more for 2024.

what is the dress code for the presentations?

we want you to feel good in your skin. please wear whatever that means for you. folks have worn everything from jeans and a tshirt to tie-dye jumpsuits to a long jean vest with a rope chest harness and a tail butt plug.

we only ask that you keep it street legal when you are outside the building, and that you sanitize seating before and after sitting if you plan to be naked.

what should I wear to the parties?

we are enthusiastic about seeing all your fetish and kink outfits, but our number one goal is for you to experience the party in whatever outfit makes you feel the best.

is this a sex positive space?

yes. our venue is a sex positive space.

we understand that not everyone wants to be in a space where sexual activities are occurring, so there will be an area where sex is allowed and an area where sex is not allowed.

we are working on solutions for the no-sex space this year that make sure the space is available for folks while leaving room for what emerges in community.

i am queer but my partner isn’t. can they come?

while we appreciate and acknowledge our straight allies, this space is not for them.