7-8p MT
9-10 ET
6-7 PT

speed meeting for queers

with Scout Hart (she/they) and Levi B (they/he) | IG: @queerinvasion

a pre-con, virtual event for ticketholders! whether you’re coming to unabashed solo, looking for play partners, or just wanting to meet new kinky friends, this virtual, pre-con event will get you introduced to bunches of QT cuties that you can continue to get to know over the weekend.

Scout Hart (she/they) is a femme-of-center nonbinary queer who is the founder and co-organizer of Queer Invasion, an east coast all gender queer play party/weekend, that gathered 200 queers from the US and abroad for 12 years. She taught her first kink class at the New England Fetish Flea in 2003 and has been instigating, demo bottom and topping, teaching kink skills (negotiation, group play, caning) ever since. | FetLife: Scoutonpatrol

Levi B (they/he) is queer hedonist and pervert who is delightfully nerdy about all things kink (among other subjects). He is the co-organizer of Queer Invasion, an all gender queer play weekend that gathered over 200 queers to the east coast. Levi has run many play parties, a house restaurant (yes really), and many other events large and small over the past 20+ years. | FetLife: Seaworthy

3-6:30p

registration

we’ll have some delightful volunteer kinksters to greet you at the door, check you in, affirm your volunteer positions, and give you any information you need ahead of the festivities.

5-6p

BIPOC-only talking space

con producers Kit (they/she) and Z (kin/they) will open a space for Black, Indigenous, and people of color to chat ahead of the festivities.

6:30-6:45p

welcome + logistics

we’ll greet everyone + share how the weekend’s going to work.

6:45-7:15p

opening ceremonies

Lady Speech will set the mood for our weekend with a sensuous opener.

7:20-8p

performance piece

8:30p-1a

play party feat. BIPOC-only play space

make all your dreams come true on our first night of delectable debauchery. we’ll greet everyone + share how the weekend’s going to work.

all day

registration

we’ll have some delightful volunteer kinksters to greet you at the door, check you in, affirm your volunteer positions, and give you any information you need ahead of the festivities.

9-10a

coffee, tea, and hangout

mix, mingle, and caffeinate ahead of our first full day!

1:30-2:30p

lunch

lunch is provided on both saturday and sunday to keep the brain (and other) juices flowing.

3-4:30p

workshops, round 3

kinky craft hour and chill time
self guided

paint dungeon furniture, wrap canes, just chill… this is a very relaxed time to unwind and socialize.

sadistic microbondage
a workshop with Athena Kali (She/her), Icarus (He/him), and Astraea (She/they)

the devil is in the details. fingers, earlobes, and naughty parts are all fair game in this fun and sadistic class, where participants will learn creative ideas for incorporating 'tiny rope' into play, such as twine, thread, yarn, and other deceptively small and mighty implements. from a top who likes their prey decidedly 'stressed,' this class will cover agonizing and annoying combinations, sadistically small ties, using micro-bondage safely on different areas of the body, and exploiting the natural sensitivity of some unusual spaces (in between the toes!). this is absolutely a learn-by-doing class - please bring a small ball of twine or yarn so you have plenty to play with, and some will be provided as well!

Athena Kali is an award-winning New York kink presenter, educator and Domme who helps people unlock loving connection through kink & power exchange. With 12+ years of experience as a 24/7 D/s Owner, Athena and her pets offer fun and dynamic workshops on how to create lasting power exchange relationships, exploring polyamory and queer identities, as well as shibari, CBT, and more. Her classes are designed for all bodies, all genders, and all abilities, with a style two parts theatre and one part hilarity that will leave you laughing, connected, and ready to incorporate new tools and ideas into your play. Athena has taught at over 100 events across the U.S, is the founder of the (soon-to-launch) Kinky Bliss Institute, and runs a queer kinky social club in Upstate New York. | IG: @kinkyblissinstitute | www.kinkyblissinstitute.com

solo dominance, submission, and surrender
a hybrid presentation with Lee Harrington (He/They)

are you drawn to power exchange, dominance, or submission, but are not in a relationship? are you long distance from a partner and want ways to connect with your identity without them around? are mastery, dominance, submission, or surrender part of your spiritual path regardless of other humans being involved? in this discussion we will examine the concepts around Solo D/s, then explore psychological, energetic, and physical ways to dive on in. whether you yourself identify on either “side” of these dynamics, or are curious about adding auto-erotic D/s play and dynamics to your kink repertoire, join us for this collective exploration.

Lee Harrington (he/they) is an internationally known spirituality, identity, relationships, and personal authenticity author and educator. He brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience, having taught classes, shared presentations, and delivered keynotes worldwide for over twenty years. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his many books include “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond,” “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macrame,” and “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys.” He has been blogging online since 1998 and has been teaching since 2001. You can check out Lee’s adventures, as well as his podcast, tour schedule, free essays, videos, and more, over at PassionAndSoul.com.

5-6:30p

workshops, round 4

yoga impact toymaking
a workshop with Rapt Faun (ze/zir)

toys - or tools - are a key part of may types of kinky play, and kink equipment can get very expensive which creates a fiscal barrier for may to the kinds of play they may be interested in. come to this workshop and learn how to make an effective flogger using materials that often can be found at the thrift store to make a low cost, effective, and with decent fit and finish flogger and more. unabashed has graciously provided all the materials and tools for 30 people to make a Yoga Mat Flogger.

in addition to the core make of a flogger in class, tools will be available to make a Yoga Block Hammer if attendees wish (optional) and bring their own materials (EVA Foam yoga block & 1/2" or 3/4" PVC pipe for the handle). bringing alternative handle materials (finished wood for example) are encouraged as well.

the class will be held just before the play party saturday so you can make your flogger then go use it!

Rapt Faun is a relationship fluid, versatile, non-binary (ze/zir) Top/Sadist who has been in and out of the kink scene for over 20 years as life ebbs and flows. A neurodivergent, consent heavy, mentor and caring connection driven player who is always striving for emotional growth. Rapt has a background in mechanical engineering and creative making and imagination. This makes for more projects than one knows what to do with and a vivid storytelling before the scene even starts.

radical self pleasure
a hybrid lecture/discussion with Tensegrity (they/he)

a hybrid lecture/discussion forum on masturbation and all its INS AND OUTS including extensive toy research and out of the box idea for their use, how to combine stimuli during sessions, and education on non-toy stimuli that takes masturbation to a whole other level.

a more well rounded solo sex practice can have positive influences on your entire well being. it's a great way to build a strong positive relationship with your body and your pleasure. understanding sex with yourself gives you the self awareness to improve sex with partners too! masturbation can intersect with our kink practices many ways as well, from getting off later on the super hot scene to mitigating drop by hacking brain chemicals.

this class will cover ideas that apply across genital spectrums and send attendees home with tons of ideas to explore and discover. participants are encouraged to bring note taking supplies as well as their own ideas to add to the conversation.

Tensegrity (they/he) is an international genderqueer and neurodivergent educator and performer. They have been obsessing over rope since 2018 and started teaching in 2020. He puts on very dense classes packed to the brim with information and prides himself on making each class valuable to every skill level in the room. They are passionate about how the rope community can expand by both considering parallel outside knowledge bases and by challenging the status quo especially in the ways that are most uncomfortable. His super power in teaching is leveraging an advanced attention to detail to break down even complex topics into manageable bites. Oh, and he'll do it loudly. | IG: @_tensegrity

awkward domming 101
a demo/discussion with Air (she/they)

in this class, I’ll demo a ridiculously awkward scene/sequence with my partner, then give you some tips and tricks to embrace the imperfection that is human existence, in the context of rope bondage play, while maintaining quality connection and enhancing trust between you and your partner. what’s the saying, “when you trip in life, make it part of your dance?” yeah, well we’re going to learn how to trip gracefully. or at least, how to come to play from a space of less judgement, more allowance, and maybe even intentionally include awkwardness in our play… ya know, in a sexy-nerdy-sadistic kinda way.

(this is a partner-oriented class, but unpartnered members absolutely welcome with the option to just audit, adapt to self-tie, or make a new friend and pair up for class.)

Air is a queer non-binary neurospicy poly switchy shaninstigator of magnitude (yes, all the things). They joined the public bdsm scene in 2016, with a primary focus in Japanese style rope bondage. As an avid self-tier, rigger, and rope bottom, Air has worked with a multitude of highly skilled rope/bdsm practitioners over the years and has presented and performed at both national and international level events. Air’s tying style can be described as skillful, creative, precocious, unique, and often hilariously sadistic.

Air’s greatest joy as an instructor is fostering an environment of inclusion, non-judgement, & possibility, while meeting folks exactly where they are on their magical kink journey. In Air’s classes you will learn new skills, be encouraged to think outside of the box, gain confidence & self awareness, and likely engage in a copious amount of laughter. Air’s skill, enthusiasm, and genuine delight for all things *rope & connection* is inspiring and quite contagious. | IG: @itsokimjustair | Fetlife: air | www.itsokimjustair.com

6:30-8p

dinner break

dinner isn’t provided, but we definitely recommend you fuel up between now and the play party.

7-8p

community altar

For love and liberation: a collaborative altar
a workshop with Sharon Pink (she/her)

At this co-created altar, we invoke love and liberation that celebrates the magic of queerness, including our many perversions and desires. By weaving together love notes, offerings, honouring messages, we weave together a collective magic experience. There will also be space to release some grief or other things you may want a bit of respite from. This altar will remain until closing of our weekend and devoked with care and integrity.

Hello, I’m Sharon Pink. I’m a queer survivor, leatherFemme witch, submissive girl and loving Mommy who has been giggling and screaming in dungeons and part of kink communities since 2010. You’ll find me organizing, teaching and priestessing workshops, rituals and classes on kink, magic and art, organizing leatherQueer gatherings and other community events.

I live my time on Squamish, Musqueam, Tsleil Waututh and Sq'èwlets territory, striving to be a respectful guest through reparations, listening, tending the earth and responding to calls to action. I am of polish and portuguese lineages and aspire to be in ways that are anti-white supremacy, fat liberatory, gender affirming, leatherQueer celebratory, Elder & crone honoring and sex worker positive. | www.sharonishere.com | IG: @sharonpinkishere

8:30p-1a

play party feat. trans + GNC-only play space

new ideas mean fresh play. get some. while the primary play room will be sex positive, we will have a designated play room where no sex will be allowed.

all day

registration

we’ll have some delightful volunteer kinksters to greet you at the door, get you checked in, affirm your volunteer positions, and give you any information you need ahead of the festivities.

9-10a

coffee, tea, and hangout

mix, mingle, and caffeinate.

10-11:30a

workshops, round 1, part 2

super neurodivergence2: AuADHD and kink
a hybrid presentation with Mxstress (they/them/we)

the facilitator shares their personal experiences as a super neurodivergent kinkster: Autistic & ADHD (also Anxious, Depressed, PTSD'd). they elaborate on their lifelong neurodivergent experiences as a South Asian Indian, POC, Femme, AFAB, Queer, Kinky, Non-Monogamous, and Aromantic human and how those identities inform their unique and creative approach to neurodivergent kink. the facilitator presents their attempts to harness the inherent chaos and contradiction of their neurodivergence2. the facilitator lays out the tools, infrastructure, methods, & mechanisms they've embraced to lean into their super neurodivergence in kink, AuADHD. this session is a work-in-praxis: a session co-constructed by the facilitator and attendees from any/all points along the spectrum of neurodiversity (e.g. both neurodivergent & neurotypical folks). the facilitator and participants work in collaboration to reframe neurodivergence in kink from deficit modeling to asset modeling as they practice applying tools from the neurodivergent paradigm, informed by the neurodivergent movement, while leaning into the strengths of neurodiversity.

Mxstress is an educational consultant, public speaker, professional dominatrix, and coach with over a decade of facilitation experience. Their work spans disciplines but focuses on the experiences of individuals with historically marginalized or minoritized identities, especially queer, transgender, and gender non-conforming people of color. They use humor, empathy, and honesty to empower all in a shared pursuit of justice, liberation, community, and dismantling systemic oppression. They strive to educate and learn in collaboration with those around them. Mxstress loves coffee, trying new things, and spending time with loved ones in the sun! | https://linktr.ee/mxrowen | https://www.rowensconsulting.com/

becoming leather: what you need to know
a lecture with Devyn Stone (he/him/Sir)

So you caught a whiff of Leather and you’re hungry to learn and discover what being Leather is all about. Where does a novice begin? In this foundation-building class we will guide attendees through what Leather is. While very brief bits of Leather history will be given, this class’s aim is to provide the attendee with a beginner’s working knowledge of what Leather is, examples of Leather traditions, language used in Leather communities, and what it takes to take on Leather as an identifier. This class is welcome to all attendees, regardless of experience, but is tailored to be introductory level.

Master (Devyn) Stone is an author, educator, and JEDI consultant. He is a Leatherman, an extrovert, a dominant, a Sons of Anarchy fan, and a foodie. He also enjoys organizing events, volunteering, moderating, speaking, and emceeing! He dreams of globe trotting and helping folx achieve the connections they desire, while they learn themselves more deeply. He has been practicing authority transfer dynamics since 2004. He earned the title "Master" and was covered in 2023 at South Plains Leatherfest. Today he lives in Colorado with his property and his doll.

Devyn is the author of “DAMN! That’s A Nice Ash! A Comprehensive Guide to Cigar Service & Play” and “Why I Don't Own Them... Yet… ,” offering a concise and easy to digest guide to negotiating authority in relationships. He is the Founder of Pragmatically Kinking, an organization that provides virtual education on the practical aspects of BDSM, and THRIVE, a virtual conference dedicated to the intersection of neurodivergence, mental health, and BDSM.

Master Stone has a passion for giving and receiving education. As an educator and consultant, he offers over 50 classes and programs to organizations, groups, and events all around the world. His favorite topics to speak on include: productivity, leadership, consent, event coordinating, authority transfer, and neurodivergence. He believes in diversity not division, and actualizes that idea by promoting strongly affirming spaces and interactions. He was presented the Inferno award at FLAME in 2021, in recognition of his work providing inclusive and accessible education to the BDSM, Leather, and Kink Communities. To keep up with his work and get in touch please visit https://DevynStone.com

training: it’s not just for puppies anymore
a workshop with Miss Amy Red (she/her)

from pet-play to our favorite protagonist training montages, training dynamics are hot. this class covers the foundations of non-violent training methods (sorry, shock collars and spankings are not part of this curriculum). then we'll go beyond BF Skinner to explore techniques for creating hot training experiences that build connected relationships.

Miss Amy Red is, or sometimes identifies as: instigator, service-oriented, polyamorous, cat herder, active bottom, treasured property, rope partner, submissive and occasional top. Most of all, she is passionate about powerful education and empowered relationships. She served her local community as the Maitre’d of Seattle's Libertine Social Club, a high-protocol service event, where she trained and provided leadership for house staff. She’s had the good fortune to share her passions at conferences across North America over the years. Her class topics include service, training, objectification, and power exchange relationships taught largely from an s-type’s perspective. | FetLife: MissAmyRed

12-1:30p

workshops, round 2, part 2

outdoor skills for outdoor thrills
a lecture and discussion with Badly Licked Bear (They/Them)

99.99% of the world is outside, but a lot of us only play indoors. outdoor play creates opportunities for both complex scene planning and impromptu hot moments. the outdoors are for everyone and every body. this class will include: basic legal issues for outdoor play, consent and negotiation issues specific to the topic, scene and safety planning, hot and essential gear tips, example scenes, and a space for active discussion about our experiences with outdoor play.

Badly Licked Bear is a transfemme and Indigenous 3rd gender, leatherdyke, pig, and “Power Switch.” Pansexual and polymorphously perverse, they are deeply curious about everything, and have been enraptured with power exchange and sadomasochism for three decades. Outdoor play excites them and makes them feel in touch with the wind, water, and earth. They teach storytelling by storytelling and write and tell stories. They are a keeper of stories. | IG: @badlylickedbear | www.badlylickedbear.substack.com

kink still life drawing
a workshop with Shel Stefan (They/Them)

folx will learn how to draw from a vignette of orchestrated kink-based still life objects through a set of guided lessons from their nurturing Dom teacher, warmly: ProfesSir. basic skills in drawing will be explored and housed in adoration of simple leather and kink materials. participants will have supplies provided. no experience necessary, folx can just show up. the goal is that people feel camaraderie for what we love to see as leather folx and kinksters, and that we achieve this through lessons from an experienced nurturing Dom, through dedicated seeing, and through the art of drawing for beginners.

Shel Stefan is a queer, trans nonbinary art professor originally from Chicago who now lives on the traditional territory of the Sto:lo people outside of what is known as Vancouver, BC. Shel has been a member of the queer community and has taught all levels of drawing and painting to people of all ages and abilities for 30 years. Shel’s approach to kink is rooted in creativity and sensory expression and they believe that art has the capacity to achieve, hold, and explore deep components of this terrain. | IG: @shel.stefan

the magick of service, the service of magick
a workshop with Little Mx. Goth (they/he)

what magick can you create through the simple act of preparing your Sir a meal? how can you better serve your Mommy or Goddess through tarot reading, spell work, or other magickal practices? in this class, participants will explore the intersection of service and magick, discussing what it might look like to infuse magick into D/s service. we will define our divine Why’s behind each act of service. through cementing our intentions, we can begin to build service rituals that incorporate herbal, symbol, color, or other magicks. we will also discuss solo magickal rituals that in and of themselves are acts of service – from creating spell jars for a Dominant to performing self-care magick as you work to Daddy yourself. participants will leave the class with the beginnings of their own kinky spellbook, prepared to deepen their connection to themselves, their partners, and/or the divine through both service and magick.

Casper Reynolds, also known as Little Mx. Goth, is a kink and sexuality educator, witch, sex worker, and writer. They have lived with mental illness their entire life and are learning to use the tenants of disability justice in order to form and participate in radical disabled and kinky community. Casper also teaches and writes about the intersection of kink with asexuality, magick, gender, trans identity, sex work, and storytelling. They have previously taught workshops on divination and kink, designing intimacy spaces, porn positivity, and more.

Outside of their education work, Casper manages their fetish and kink porn brand, Little Mx. Goth. They also write queer horror and romance fiction that centers the lives of kinky, trans, disabled, and other minoritized folks. You can find Casper on their website (LittleMxGoth.com) or on Instagram/Twitter (@LittleMxGoth).

1:30-2:30p

lunch

lunch is provided on both saturday and sunday to keep the brain (and other) juices flowing.

3-4:30p

workshops, round 3, part 2

exploring sex and gender in petplay
a discussion with Drummer Pony (He/him) and Mxstress (they/them/we)

sexy vixens, virile stallions, moody mares, bitches in heat, man's best friend - we impart a lot of our cultural assumptions of gender onto animals. for those of us who are GNC, gender-diverse, or transgender, how can this show up in petplay? this discussion will examine the many ways one can use petplay to affirm one's gender, or deliberately fuck with archetypes and stereotypes to queer our assumptions about masculinity and femininity.

Drummer Pony is a transgender, queer, autistic leatherman, sadomasochist, ponyboy and all-around deviant with a flair for the extravagant and bizarre. He has been active in the Colorado leather community for four years and spends much of his time engaging with the Rocky Mountain Pony Herd. He is an avid writer, artist, and gardener with a background in environmental science and justice. | Fetlife: drummer_pony

Mxstress is an educational consultant, public speaker, professional dominatrix, and coach with over a decade of facilitation experience. Their work spans disciplines but focuses on the experiences of individuals with historically marginalized or minoritized identities, especially queer, transgender, and gender non-conforming people of color. They use humor, empathy, and honesty to empower all in a shared pursuit of justice, liberation, community, and dismantling systemic oppression. They strive to educate and learn in collaboration with those around them. Mxstress loves coffee, trying new things, and spending time with loved ones in the sun! | https://linktr.ee/mxrowen | https://www.rowensconsulting.com/

shea butter baby service
a hybrid demo/discussion/lecture with kat (he/they)

cigars and tea are cool and all but have you ever had a freshly greased scalp after a head wash with a deep condition? service isn't a one size fit all and can be tailored to fit your power dynamics while still maintaining your culture. in this class you'll see firsthand what service can look like for blk/brwn bodies. we’ll discuss how these practices show up in our everyday lives and how to find a balance to maintain your desired authenticity. this class is specifically catered to blk/brwn folx, however others are welcome to attend to learn for perspective.

some people prefer to be out the spotlight. it’s me, i’m people. i’m kat, a queer they/him with a little over a decade of kink experience under my belt. with a vast range of kinks and fetishes, they all have the bottom line of empowering and increasing visibility of marginalized groups in the leather/kink lifestyle; those margins specifically being QT/ BIPOC. When i’m not teaching or doing rope lessons you can find me woodworking, catering , or doing bendy circus stuff. For all the cool folks, i ALWAYS flag black :) | IG: @kat.blk | FB: katblk

kinky care collectives: disability justice within the BDSM community
a workshop with Little Mx. Goth (they/he)

as per their contract, a Daddy checks in with her submissive each day, rewarding them for following their hydration plan to better manage their depression. some days, the Daddy is unavailable for this check-in due to their own physical health needs, so they instead rely on other members of their kink community to check in on their submissive. this kink community has formed what Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha calls a “care web” or “care collective.”

in this workshop, participants will explore the meaning and purpose behind care webs in meeting a community’s diverse physical and mental needs outside of the medical industrial complex. applying concepts created by the disability justice movement, we will then discuss ways to implement communal care within D/s dynamics as well as the broader kink community. participants will begin to brainstorm their own care plan, consider the ways they can draw on kink community to help bring that care plan to life, and outline how they might show up for others’ care plans. we will finish with a discussion on navigating the challenges and feeling the joys that come from relying on and participating in a kinky care webs. let’s learn to kink, commune, and love through radical care.

Casper Reynolds, also known as Little Mx. Goth, is a kink and sexuality educator, witch, sex worker, and writer. They have lived with mental illness their entire life and are learning to use the tenants of disability justice in order to form and participate in radical disabled and kinky community. Casper also teaches and writes about the intersection of kink with asexuality, magick, gender, trans identity, sex work, and storytelling. They have previously taught workshops on divination and kink, designing intimacy spaces, porn positivity, and more.

Outside of their education work, Casper manages their fetish and kink porn brand, Little Mx. Goth. They also write queer horror and romance fiction that centers the lives of kinky, trans, disabled, and other minoritized folks. You can find Casper on their website (LittleMxGoth.com) or on Instagram/Twitter (@LittleMxGoth).

5-6:30p

workshops, round 4, part 2

primal play: hunter, hunted, predator, prey
a discussion with Lee Harrington (He/They)

each of us holds an animal inside us, and that creature is primal, wild, and tapped into the ancient power that says hunt, or be hunted, run, or be captured. in this class we will explore diverse forms of primal play, from growling and throating your lover in the bedroom, to constructed experiences stalking someone through woods and dark alleyways… and more. what kind of feral beast are you, and why? whether you are partnered with someone primal, are primal yourself as an identity, enjoy the play, or are simply curious, we will work on skills for negotiation, “reading” our partners when verbal tools are off the table, and communication skills in general. consent can be complex, so let’s build our knowledge and safety skills together. bring your tips and tools for going into primal “space” and coming back to being a socialized human, and your questions for other passionate beasts to share their knowledge about in this theory and tool-sharing class.

Lee Harrington (he/they) is an internationally known spirituality, identity, relationships, and personal authenticity author and educator. He brings a combination of playful engagement and thoughtful academic dialogue to a broad audience, having taught classes, shared presentations, and delivered keynotes worldwide for over twenty years. An award-winning author and editor on gender, sexual, and sacred experience, his many books include “Sacred Kink: The Eightfold Paths of BDSM and Beyond,” “Shibari You Can Use: Japanese Rope Bondage and Erotic Macrame,” and “Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Journeys.” He has been blogging online since 1998 and has been teaching since 2001. You can check out Lee’s adventures, as well as his podcast, tour schedule, free essays, videos, and more, over at PassionAndSoul.com.

interrogating the master/slave dynamic, how race + racism impact our (kinky) sex
a hybrid presentation with Billie Mari Grant (she/her)

Interrogating the Master / Slave Dynamic, How Race + Racism Impact Our (Kinky) Sex will be a facilitated experience with opportunities for dialogue. I'll welcome everyone into the room and we'll do brief introductions where I talk a bit about what my work has looked like and my dating and sexual experiences when it comes to race and ethnicity. I love a good question box and will pass one around asking everyone to write something. if they don't have a question I usually say they can tell me their astrological sign or favorite color, draw me a little picture or give me a compliment. I'll invite folks to introduce themselves as they share into the space so I'll give an overview of what that will look like: name, pronouns, race then question or comment. at two points in the session people will self select into comfort and/or experience levels for more appropriate conversation. the first will be by both race and comfort. they will discuss what feels worrisome or nervous making about the topic of race and racism in their sex life or ways of relating. we'll return to the large group with some sharing. I'll talk through common pitfalls and gaps in knowledge that exist in the kink community with a backdrop of the conversations being had about race and racism in the sexual culture community and in the country as a whole. we'll talk a bit about how media (including pornography) plays a role in narrative construction. the second will be by race alone and each participant will articulate a commitment they feel they can hold moving forward to create greater safety, and thus greater pleasure when engaging power dynamics in their sex and relationships regardless of the race of all involved. we'll close with some resources and grounding as conversations about race are highly activating for everyone.

Billie (she/her) believes sexual culture impacts all we do from our drink order at a bar to the books we choose to read (or listen to) and thus wants to create as many accessible and effective opportunities for asking difficult questions, challenging held bias and doing the work to have better sex!

She centers the narratives of Black, disabled and queer individuals in her pedagogy and moves with that lens as a Black, disabled queer woman.

She is happy to be home and excited for what's to come. | IG: @thingsthatstartwithb

i want my mommy/daddy! dark and chaste age play
a workshop with Noel (they/them)

have you been curious about age play but something holds you back from actually exploring? how do we deal with the internalized stigma that’s abundant in our culture about age play? how do we protect ourselves from hurting each other when we externalize the internal, differently aged parts of ourselves? and what possibilities for connection, power exchange and healing exist in exploring chaste and dark age play alike?

we'll address the questions: who are our inner differently aged parts of ourselves? what brings us to age play? why do it? what stigmas do we fear? (and a practice to release them.) what is the difference between littles and Adult Babies? how do we negotiate an age play scene? what happens when it’s part of your D/s dynamic? how do we repair damage done (intentional and unintentional) when doing age play? and end with an open Q&A.

Noel is a transgender-nonbinary and two spirit submissive, pig, dirty little baby, and service pony. They're pathetic, pansexual, and polyamorous. They love to explore the interplay between practicing physical and emotional sadomasochism, becoming emotionally healthy, and healing their nervous system. In their life, they enjoy building their reiki healing, art, and witchcraft business called The Sparkle Path; being of service to transgender youth as a volunteer camp counselor; building community through play parties and workshops; and tending their Nature and Ancestral based spiritual communities. Find them on Fetlife: midnight-mayhem or Instagram @pony_midnight_mayhem.

7:30-10p

community cleanup

one last moment of service to close the space. anyone who can and wants to stay is welcome to help.